Dare To Lead
Brene Brown
Brown, B (2018) Dare To Lead. London: Penguin Random House.
(Brown, 2018)
- Emotions and Experience
‘Surface emotions and emotional experiences that people can’t articulate or that might be happening outside of their awareness.’
p.67
‘We can’t serve people and try to control their feelings.’
p.69
- Vulnerability
Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging and joy
p.43
Vulnerability not disclosure
p.35
- Trust
Trust establishes in small moments
Possibility of connecting or turning away
Choosing to connect
Dr John Gottman
pp. 33-34
- Psychological Safety
‘In psychologically safe environments, people believe that if they make a mistake others will not penalize or think less of them for it. They also believe others will not penalize or think less of them for it.’
p.36-37
- Gratitude
‘Gratitude is… a human construct – a unifying part of our existence – and it’s the antidote to forboding joy’
‘Give your group permission for leaning into joy.’
p.83
- Value
Ken Blanchard – ‘Catch people doing things right’ It’s much more powerful than collecting behaviours that are wrong.
p.98
- Power
Martin Luther King definition of power as the ability to achieve purpose and effect change
p.95
Power with
Finding common ground among different interests in order to build collective strength
Power to
Giving everyone on your team agency
Power Within
Ability to recognize differences and respect others, grounded in a strong foundation of self-worth and self-knowledge
p.97
- Rumble – type of communication
A discussion, conversation, or meeting defined by a commitment to lean into vulnerability, to stay curious and generous, to stick with the messy middle of problem identification and solving, to take a break and circle back when necessary, to be fearless in owning our parts, and as psychologist Harriet Lerner teaches, to listen with the same passion with which we want to be heard.’
p.10
- Play
Dr Stuart Brown, psychiatrist, clinical researcher, founder of the National Institute of Play
‘The opposite of play is not work – the opposite of play is depression.’
p.107
- Empathy
Empathy is one of the linchpins of cultures built on connection and trust
p.136
Empathy is not connecting to an experience, it’s connecting to the emotions that underpin an experience.
p.140
Skill
Understanding feelings
Communicating understanding
p.146
- Discomfort and Common Humanity
Dr Kristen Neff’s definition of common humanity
‘uniting us is our discomfort’
‘suffering and inadequacy is part of shared human experience’
p.160
- Values
Living into our values means that we do more than just profess our values, we practice them.
We are clear about what we believe and hold important, and we take care that our intentions, words, thoughts, and behaviours align with those beliefs.
p.186